by Dave Peniuk
I struggle. I really really struggle. I struggle with the fact that I need to change. Not just who I am and what I have done over the years, but also with who I hang out with. Who I call or email on a daily or weekly basis. You see, I have heard many times from all the really successful entrepreneurs and business people out there that if you take the 5 or 6 people that you spend the MOST time with, you basically add up to the average of those 6 people.
Now, think about that. Just take a second and really think about those 6 people. And I don’t suggest you count your closest family (spouse, kids, family pet) members. Think beyond that. Also don’t include your co-workers because, really, they probably don’t count all that much in your “grand scheme of life”. But, if you think about the 6 people beyond those parameters, you probably do add up to their average. Is that a good thing? Is it a bad thing? Well, let’s not judge whether or not it’s a good or bad thing, but let’s just think whether it is helping or hindering where we want to be in our own life. After Julie and I spent quite a bit of time at several conferences/seminars we asked ourselves this very question. Now, I am the one that “hangs onto my friends” a little more than Julie does. Why? Probably because I am okay with talking on the phone. Julie, on the other hand, would rather take a small mallet and repeatedly hit her kneecap than talk on the phone ( yes, it’s THAT bad). So, it was I that had to figure out whether I would hold myself back by mostly continuing my association with ol’ time friends that really had little to do with what I want to do with my life.
So, where am I? Well, so far I am working towards focusing on spending more time with people/mentors/friends that I want to be more like. I am spending more of my time following real estate investors that have like-minded strategies and that I appreciate and can relate to. It’s not to say that I will stop hanging with my friends that are going in an opposite direction than me. But rather, I will make a more concerted effort to spend more time with people that are moving in the direction that I am moving.
Why? Because if I want to be the “best that I can be” (to steal a line from the army/navy), I have to surround myself with friends/people that are moving in the same direction. This is the absolutely the BEST way to help you achieve your ideal me.